The ho’oponopono technique
It can be so hard to let someone go. When we lose, leave or need to let someone go it can be hard to move through the grief created by that loss. We can often feel like we do not have closure and the situation/context can mean that contact and conversations are no longer possible.
Then there are the times when we are still in some sort of relationship with someone but just experiencing conflict or emotional challenges be it a friend, family member or work colleague.
It is easy for our brains to become preoccupied with the loss, pain, conflict or circular thoughts about the relationship, that just don’t service us.
The Hawaiians have a beautiful releasing and healing practice called Ho’oponopono.
The word ho’oponopono roughly translates to “cause things to move back in balance” or to “make things right.”
The practice consists of 4 simple and powerful phrases that you repeat in a daily practice (I suggest for at least 28 days). You say these 4 phrases to yourself but send them energetically to the person who you need to let go of or are experiencing conflict with.
This technique of reconciliation and forgiveness can also be a powerful self healing practice when turned towards ourselves.
It can be natural to resist this practice at first, but after a few times, it gets easier. You might feel better right away, or experience a slow evolution in how you feel.
I am sorry.
(Please) Forgive me.
Thank you.
I love you.
The Ho’oponopono Practice
There are four forces at work in this practice:
Repentance,
Forgiveness,
Gratitude,
and Love.
This ancient Hawaiian practice is a process of making things right in your relationships, including with ancestors, the earth and yourself.
The PRACTICE
1. Take a few deep breaths with your eyes closed.
2. Slowly repeat these phrases about 7 or 8 times. Say the phrases silently in your head or out loud to yourself but send them energetically to the person you wish to address the practice towards. To do this, imagine the person and imagine sending these messages to them (but do not actually tell the person you are doing this).
“I’m sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you, I love you… I’m sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you, I love you“— and so on.
3. End with a few moments of silence to let the message resonate. Open your eyes. Notice how you feel?
I have found the ho’oponopono to be a beautiful practice of healing and balance. Try the practice for 28 days and notice what has changed for you, you may well be surprised by its effects.
Thank you for reading, Lou
